Violence: Learn more, Do more


Where have you experienced or witnessed violence in your life?

Futures_Share_Graphic_650px-3Futures Without Violence has found that about 1 in 3 teenagers report some kind of abuse – including emotional and verbal abuse – in a romantic relationship.

Every day, an average of 483 women are raped or sexually assaulted in the United States.

In the past year, more than 5 million children were exposed to physical intimate partner violence – 6.6% of children in our country. Of these children, 1 in 3 reported being physically abused themselves.

With statistics like these, we could say that we have all been exposed to violence somewhere and at some point in our lives – whether we’ve experienced it ourselves or someone close to us has. We see the consequences to exposure to violence all around us. Violence leads to more violence and our exposure to it impacts our health and the health of our loved ones. For example:

  • Women victimized by abuse are more likely to be diagnosed with serious health problems including depression, panic attacks, high risk behaviors such as tobacco and substance abuse and sexual risk taking, as well as migraines, chronic pain, arthritis, high blood pressure, gastrointestinal problems, inconsistent use of birth control, and delayed entry into prenatal care.

  • Pregnant women are frequent targets of abuse and, as a result, are placed at risk for low birth weight babies, pre-term labor — pregnant and parenting teens are especially vulnerable.

  • Abused children and those exposed to adult violence in their homes may have short and long term physical, emotional and learning problems, including: increased aggression, decreased responsiveness to adults, failure to thrive, posttraumatic stress disorder, depression, anxiety, hyper vigilance and hyperactivity, eating and sleeping problems, and developmental delays.

It’s one thing to know more about violence in our communities and in our country – and another to be able to do something about it. When I stop and think – Ok, how, then, do we stop violence? – I get stuck. It’s such a BIG issue and incredibly complex. But it seems a few groups of people have some ideas. Here are a few ideas from the Coalition to End Violence Against Women in Sudbury, Canada:

  1. Recognize that it’s a men’s issue: Violence against women is not just a woman’s issue, it’s also a men’s issue that involves men of all ages, socioeconomic, racial and ethnic backgrounds.
  2. Break the silence: When you are ready, tell others your stories about survival; this can help others share their stories thus reducing the shame associated with abuse.
  3. Listen to women: When a woman discloses about violence in her life, listen and believe her.Futures_Share_Graphic_650px-1
  4. Heal the violence in your own life: Many of us are survivors of abuse in some way and many of us fear becoming a victim of violence.  If you are emotionally, psychologically, physically or sexually abused, get help. Get counselling or join a support groupIf you are abusive to women, in any way, get help now.
  5. Make violence your business: Some of us tend to have this belief that violence is a private thing and we should not be asking questions about other people’s business or relationships – especially when there is trouble. If you suspect violence in a home or if someone is being abused, ask them. Looking the other way will not help end violence against women. They may not tell you right away but your concern may show them you are someone they can trust. If you need extra support in support someone who is being abused, call your local women’s shelter or crisis line.
  6. Raise non-violent children: Talk to your children about abuse and violence. Help them find non-violent ways to solve conflicts and encourage co-operative and non-violent play. Don’t use violence as punishments.
  7. Support initiatives that promote women’s equality: Women make up the majority of victims of abuse. Get involved in your community’s rallies or awareness campaigns on ending violence. Help raise money so we can continue to our prevention work or volunteer in an organization working to end violence against women.
  8. Challenge sexism: Media often portray women as sexual objects and often use images of violence against women to sell products.  Websites, music, movies, even books often describe and portray women in a sexual degrading or abusive manner. This is not OK. Challenge those statements by talking about the realities of women. Challenge gender roles.

Next week is the YWCA’s Week without Violence – a signature initiative created by YWCA USA nearly 20 years ago to mobilize people in communities across the United States to take action against all forms of violence, wherever it occurs. What will you do to take a stand, interrupt violence, and promote peace, health and wellness? What will you do to get involved?

Hate begets hate; violence begets violence; toughness begets a greater toughness. We must meet the forces of hate with the power of love.

Martin Luther King, Jr. 

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For support around domestic violence, contact Doris O’Neal in Seattle at 206.280.9961 or JoJo Goan in South King County at 425.226.1266, ext.1017 or rgaon@ywcaworks.org. Learn more about YWCA services available for individuals and families experiencing domestic violence. To speak with a counselor to talk through something you’re experiencing, call us at 425.922.6192.

Uncomfortably Predictable: Race, Community and the Cycle of Violence


The focus of this blog has always been on access to and information on health, wellness, and health care. However, at this time, it feels more right to use this space to speak to the actively and publicly violent situation continuing in Ferguson, Missouri. There is much community dialogue around what’s going on, much press coverage, and much social media attention.

YWCAs across the country are fighting against racism. I see YWCA USA exercising leadership in the conversation around Ferguson and the death of Michael Brown. And for that reason, I share this blog post with you from YWCA USA, written by Donte Hilliard, the YWCA USA Director of Mission Impact.

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We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.
– U. S. Declaration of Independence 1776

YWCA is dedicated to eliminating racism, empowering women and promoting peace, justice, freedom and dignity for all.
– Adopted by the General Assembly, 2009

If you are silent about your pain, they’ll kill you and say you enjoyed it.
– Zora Neal Hurston

Donte Hilliard

Once again, an unarmed Black person is dead at the hands of local law enforcement agents. How many spectacles of bullet-riddled, broken Black bodies must we endure? How many cablecast reports and tweeted acts of grief and rage must we consume before we declare it is too much? How much evidence do we need before we admit that the United States of America has a problem?

Unfortunately, we at the YWCA USA know all too well that racialized community violence is neither novel nor rare for people of color in the U.S. Even as we join the hundreds of thousands of people who demonstrate their solidarity with the Brown Family (on the ground and online) as they grieve the loss of Michael Brown and seek justice, we know there are innumerable victims and survivors of this type of systemic violence who will never be acknowledged on a national platform.

We also know, that despite what continues to be revealed about the specifics of this incident in Ferguson, Mo., the script is uncomfortably predictable:

  • A person of color is racially profiled, surveilled and killed;
  • Despite being unarmed, he/she is accused of being a threat or threatening;
  • Peaceful, organized community action is ignored — framed as a riot rather than a protest or civic engagement, or rendered moot because of other acts (such as looting);
  • The local community is admonished for “rushing to judgment” and not waiting on the facts;
  • Images of the dead person of color surface that portray him or her as a scary, menacing, or gang-affiliated;
  • Local and national law enforcement agents and agencies will seek to frame the death in a race-neutral context, denying the reality of institutional and systemic racism; we will be asked to see victims, survivors and perpetrators only as individuals and not as members of social groups of varying institutional and structural power, while simultaneously being bombarded with racially-coded words and images;
  • Taxpayers will be treated as “enemy combatants,” rather than citizens who are guaranteed the right to gather, speak, and protest per our founding and governing documents.

What do we say and do in the face of this gut-wrenching, all-too-familiar cycle of violence against the psyche and soma of people of color?

We at the YWCA USA dare not desecrate the lives and memories of the victims and survivors of racialized community violence with hollow platitudes. Rather, we seek to transform our anger, confusion, and despair into action.

Here’s what we can do:

  • Locally, those near Ferguson can contact the YWCA of Metro St. Louis. This YWCA has a long history of working on racial justice and to end discrimination in St. Louis, through workplace seminars, hosting speakers, guided dialogues, and more. Amy Hunter, Director of Racial Justice, leads these groups to “increase understanding of the institutionalized and systemic impact of racism, work towards peace and healing and positively impact the community we all live in.” Earlier this week, she joined other community leaders at Christ the King United Church of Christ in Florissant for a forum with Ferguson Police Chief Tom Jackson.
  • No matter where you live, please take action today and tell Congress the time is now to end racial profiling—a United States problem that destroys American values of fairness and justice. Congress must take action and pass the End Racial Profiling Act this year. This bill requires that local law enforcement agencies receiving federal funds maintain adequate cultural competency policies and procedures for eliminating racial profiling. In addition, this bill allows victims to obtain declaratory or injunctive relief.
  • If you are or aspire to be a White racial justice ally, you MUST show up. Racism is a problem for all of us. People of color cannot be the only ones putting their bodies on the line.

Do not let this movement end here. Racialized community violence must not be allowed to remain a normal part of our daily lives. We must come together and continue to fight for the fair and equitable treatment of all.

The YWCA is a social justice organization and movement with over 150 years of experience providing direct service to, building with, and advocating on behalf of the most vulnerable people in our society: low wage workers, the unemployed, women and girls, people of color, non-native English speakers, members of the military, abuse survivors, etc. As a social justice organization, we have a deep and abiding commitment to working on issues of economic, gender, and racial justice — particularly in the places where these systems of oppression overlap each other.

As an organization dedicated to eliminating racism and empowering women, we will not allow issues of racial profiling, hate crimes and/or community violence be placed on the back burner.

Donte brings more than 10 years of administrative leadership in the areas of: Diversity, Inclusion & Social Justice; education/training in African American, Gender, and Religious Studies; knowledge and application of various social change models; history of advocacy for historically underrepresented groups; and coalition building within and across various communities. Donte has notable experience as faculty, trainer, community volunteer and activist, researcher and author, and has received many awards and honors. He is the co-founder and Chair of the Institute for Justice Education & Transformation (IJET), an initiative of the UW Madison Multicultural Student Center, that provides and supports opportunities for deep reflection and action around issues of Social Justice for underrepresented communities and their allies. Donte has a B.A. in Psychology from The University of Arkansas, a M.A. in African American studies from Ohio State University, and a M.A. in Religious Studies from Chicago Theological Seminary.

Empowering Women, Eliminating Violence


When you hear the word violence, what images come to mind? Is the image that of a family member? Or is it kids fighting on the streets of your neighborhood? Perhaps it is of your own personal reflection, as you look in the mirror, assessing the damages after the person you love has just finished using it as a punching bag. These are just a few examples of violence in America!

The dictionary defines violence as, the use of physical force to injure somebody or damage something. With all the recent acts of violence that have been flashed across our television screens, the questions I ask are: why and what is being done to put an end to it?

Did You Know?

  1. Domestic violence causes 3 deaths a day for women.
  2. 1 in 4 women have experienced severe physical violence by an intimate partner.
  3. 1 in 5 women have experienced some form of rape.
  4. 1 in 71 men have been sexually assaulted.

Earlier this year, Vice President Joe Biden introduced Public Law 113-4 which reauthorized the Violence Against Women Act of 1994 (VAWA). The new VAWA billed signed into law by President Obama will continue effective programs, make targeted expansions to address the needs of especially vulnerable populations, and help prevent violence in future generations.

Below are a few of the areas of focus in the law:

  • Homicide risk screenings
  • Recognition of tribal authority
  • Dating violence on college campuses
  • Protection of LGBT victims
  • Help schools and youth organizations work with youth
  • Protect victims from denial or eviction
  • Improvement to existing immigration protections

Every day, the YWCA of Seattle, King County and Snohomish County works to provide women with tools that assist in the stabilization and knowledge needed to protect themselves from volatile situations. From October 14-19 – the Week Without Violence – YWCA employees and clients across the United States will participate in efforts to heighten awareness of ways to put an end to violence.

Get Involved!  Write a comment to this blog, visit the YWCA’s website to learn how you can get involved, or join YWCA USA’s Week Without Violence 2013 Blog Carnival!

karen pictureThis blog was researched and co-written by Karen Cartagena, a resident of YWCA Housing in Seattle. Karen is an active participant of the Wisdom Circle, a chronic disease prevention class provided by YWCA Women’s Health Outreach, with support from the Avon Foundation Breast Health Outreach Program and Susan G. Komen Puget Sound Affiliate.

The Intersection of Race and Gender: It’s Our Mission


The YWCA Seattle | King County | Snohomish County is one YWCA of many. Together with YWCA USA and YWCAs across the country, we are dedicated to eliminating racism, empowering women and promoting peace, justice, freedom and dignity for all people. YWCA USA, located in Washington, DC – has it’s own blog and publishes posts every few days. Earlier this week, YWCA USA published the blog post below, written by Katie Stanton, YWCA USA’s Social Media & Online Engagement Manager.

The YWCA Seattle | King County | Snohomish County’s mission is to advance the quality of life for women of all ages, races and faiths, and their families. In support of this mission, the YWCA provides services to meet critical needs, promote self-sufficiency, reduce violence, eliminate racism and achieve equal opportunities for all people.

You may have heard, or contributed to, a hashtag that took over Twitter about one month ago: #solidarityisforwhitewomen. This tag, created in response to an exchange between writer Mikki Kendall and a former male feminist blogger, inspired Twitter users from all over the world to express their frustration, anger and sadness over the lack of intersectionality in feminism — that, within this social justice movement, the experiences, voices and needs of women of color have been often overlooked, forgotten or ignored.

The YWCA’s mission is to: eliminate racism, empower women and promote peace, justice, freedom and dignity for all. At the core of our work is the recognition that not all women, or all people, are treated equally, and that our work must reflect the needs of all of the women we serve. Our mission and history is a direct embodiment of a movement that is intersectional, that took a look at itself and asked, “Are we truly inclusive? Do we embrace diversity? What can we do better?” The YWCA’s first interracial conference was held in 1915; in 1946, we adopted the Interracial Charter, which stated that “wherever there is injustice on the basis of race, whether it is in the community, the nation, or the world, our protest must be clear and our labor for its removal vigorous and steady.” In 1965, the Office of Racial Justice, led by civil rights icon Dr. Dorothy I. Height, led a campaign against discrimination within the YWCA as well as without, ensuring that integration was a requirement of our associations and affiliates. In 1970, the national YWCA adopted the One Imperative, committing itself to “the elimination of racism wherever it exists and by any means necessary.” We continue to emphasize racial justice in all of our work, and to always ask what more we can do to fight racial inequity.

We asked two young YWCA leaders, Mana Tahaie, Director of Racial Justice at the YWCA Tulsa and Danielle Marse-Kapr, Manager, Gender Equity Programs at the YWCA Orange County NY, for their thoughts on this hashtag and on intersectionality.

1. What was your biggest takeaway from the #SolidaritywithWhiteWomen hashtag? 

Mana: The debate  highlighted that some view feminism as still a white women’s movement, and the issues that led women of color to self-identify as womanists are still very much present. Women of color in the blogosphere have been calling out mainstream online feminism for their privilege and marginalizing for years. It’s also evident that the fallout from the 2008 BrownFemiPower/Amanda Marcotte/Seal Press upset never resulted in any real change, that the very real hurt that that debacle unearthed have been simmering, unchecked. Mikki Kendall’s tag sparked well-deserved anger from women of color.

2.What does intersectionality mean to you? 

Danielle: Intersectionality refers to the intersecting oppressions that people face. In the case of this hashtag, women who experience racism, as people of color, and sexism, as women, spoke out about a clueless white feminist narrative. They later critiqued men of color for perpetuating or not addressing sexism (#blackpowerisforblackmen). White feminists can lose touch with feminism that is anti-oppression and anti-racist when they lose sight of intersectionality. To effectively address sexism, we must adopt a broader focus that goes beyond issues affecting only white women.

Mana: I feel like “intersectionality” is a word that gets thrown around so that progressives can seem like they “get” the struggles of marginalized people. As @adefillo said, “#SolidarityIsForWhiteWomen when white feminists get famous using ‘intersectional’ analysis to point out the lack of women of color in the movement.” In practice, it should be about “nothing about us, without us,” and the deep understanding that every movement has the obligation to examine its privilege, de-center the experiences of the dominant group, and listen to the voices of the oppressed. It should mean that none of us are ever just one part of our identity, and that single-issue movements are therefore missing the point, and are potentially oppressive. #SolidarityisforWhiteWomen and #blackpowerisforblackmen demonstrates that women of color, especially black women, bear the brunt of movements that are not intersectional.

3. How do you think the average person can better integrate “intersectionality” into their day-to-day life?

Mana: Decenter yourself. When you’re organizing on an issue, ask whose voices are missing and do something about it. Make an honest list of privileges you have (race, gender identity, ability, sexuality, education, class, and so on) and look at it, over and over. Remind yourself that one aspect of privilege is not being conscious of it, and that means that ways you enact privilege are likely to be invisible to you unless you’ve spent time thinking about and observing them. When marginalized people point out your privilege, believe them.

Danielle: I think a strong understanding of anti-oppression work makes it easier to adopt an intersectional perspective. For white women, I think it’s important to take an inventory of the traits that we have in common with a societal group that has historically been very powerful. I may experience oppression as a woman, but how does my whiteness set me up for success in this culture – and what does that mean about the way I pursue success? Acknowledging one’s own privilege and role in an unjust society is critical to having an intersectional or anti-oppressive worldview.

4. Does feminism have a “race problem?” Why or why not?

Mana: Absolutely. Like any U.S. institution, feminism was created in the context of white dominance, by people who benefit from white privilege, who therefore can perpetuate “race problems.” The good news is, as one of my mentors once said, feminism has the benefit of being like a Volkswagen: it comes with its own repair kit. Because feminism is ideally about dismantling oppression, it’s uniquely designed to eradicate the racism (and transphobia, and ablism, and other forms of oppression) that currently exist within the movement.

Danielle: When our feminism mirrors a culture steeped in sexism and racism, we run a greater risk of having “a race problem.” Feminism is a movement towards anti-oppression. Individuals and groups who identify as feminist can certainly act in racist ways, benefit from white privilege, or fail to understand racial justice. The “feminism” that is marketed for mass consumption is often so skewed that it’s unrecognizable. The Sheryl Sandberg-types in this world, who from their executive positions of power and privilege claim to hold the keys to achieving equality, do not and should not represent feminism today. Feminists and feminist sites committed to fighting oppression like Jessica ValentiFeministing and Jezebel were critiqued by #solidarityisforwhitewomen for being poor allies and lacking diversity. It serves as an important reminder to white feminists we must maintain an understanding of oppression and work consistently to realize our own privilege and create diversity in all spaces.

There is a desire and a need to spread these vital messages about inequity and injustice to a wide audience. Tim Wise got an hour-long segment on CNN after the George Zimmerman trial. It’s likely he made some great points, but what does it mean when a white man gets a full hour to discuss race on a major news network? Can allies (men, white people, straight people, etc.) really learn the difference between “speaking out” against injustice and stealing the platform altogether? I try to abide by these 6 rules for allies but I feel they have been challenged by #solidarityisforwhitewomen.

5. What does “feminism” mean to you? What gains have been made? Setbacks?

Danielle: To me, feminism is the fight for equality for all marginalized groups. It identifies white supremacist patriarchy as the primary perpetrator of oppression. Advocates have been fighting this battle for centuries and despite modest gains, there is a long road still ahead.

Feminism and feminists have made gains not only in achieving a more equitable and safe society but also in contributing to a body of language and concepts that speaks to the experiences of marginalized people, and women, especially. We have made gains public policy, business, philosophy, social change, family dynamics, etc.

When feminism fails to be radical, it holds itself back. When we reduce feminism to only that which affects women with privilege, we hold the movement back. If what you espouse is racist, it ceases to be feminism.

Mana: Feminism was my entrée into social justice, and I’m deeply thankful for that. But I think I outgrew it somewhere along the way, probably as a result of my own racial identity development. And, later, I became aware of the transphobia, the ablism, and the host of other ways feminism was reinforcing kyriarchy, and it just makes it too hard to stick around. There have been vast gains over the past few decades – but the unprecedented war on women we’re currently experiencing demonstrates that it takes vigilance, and that equality can regress quickly if not defended.

6. What provocative tweets, articles or post have you seen surrounding the hashtag?

Mana:

  • @xSyedaMiah: When you want me to pray for ‘your soldiers’ whilst massacring mine #solidarityisforwhitewomen
  • @StephHerold: #SolidarityIsForWhiteWomen = fighting against fetal personhood bills and not saying one word about voter ID laws.
  • @aurabogado: #SolidarityIsForWhiteWomen when white women displace women of color by moving into edgy neighborhoods they know nothing about
  • @SettlerColonial: #solidarityisforwhitewomen whose feminism requires high-speed and a live-in nanny. pic.twitter.com/9qJ1SEiVBw
  • @RaniaKhalek: Praising the “economic recovery” when the unemployment rate for black women is higher than it was 4 years ago. #SolidarityIsForWhiteWomen
  • @mcbyrne: #solidarityisforwhitewomen who talk glass ceiling without making sure everyone is in the building first.
  • @sanaa_cue: #solidarityisforwhitewomen when i’m expected to support slutwalk but y’all carry on celebrating the french ban on hijabs and niqabs.
  • @mariamelba91: #SolidarityIsForWhiteWomen deciding the issues for women in the postcolonial world, then “saving” them
  • @ridingburritos: #solidarityisforwhitewomen is being told by a white woman that the book ‘Lean In’ speaks to all of us; she’s offended when I tell her not me
  • @RaniaKhalek: #SolidarityIsForWhiteWomen when convos about gender pay gap ignore that white women earn higher wages than black, Latino and Native men.

One tweet also referenced a movement I didn’t know about, the Combahee River Collective. I was grateful to learn about it!

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